Grief is an emotion which besets us from time to time in our lives and can often have serious consequences for those of us who can't deal with it.

As we become more and more educated on the availability of professional help at much higher number of people are seeking the services of "grief counsellors", "psychologists" and "bereavement counsellors"

There are many courses of action both physical and mental which are recommended in dealing with bereavement but these are as varied as the causes of grief itself.

There is the loss of a family member, a friend, death by natural causes, violence, misadventure, suicide and the list goes on. Each cause of death, each separate circumstance can trigger a different type of emotional reaction.

So who dictates how we deal with our feelings when we are in the depths of sorrow and shock? Ultimately I believe we all have an inbuilt mechanism to deal with our bereavement it's just that from time to time we need help.

Friends and family are usually the best source of help but sometimes they can do more harm than good albeit with the best of intensions. When one senses that they are not coping and they are sinking into a deep depression its time to seek some qualified bereavement counselling.

At you can download a "Loss and Grief" kit which will give you a guide towards handling the loss of a loved one. The kit contains some common sense advice on what to do and who to approach in your time of need.